Good Communication Language

Maintaining good communication language in marriage is far better than blurting out words that will hurt.  Hurtful words and tones tend to stahl a marriage and keep it from experiencing the best of what the relationship has to offer.   Such as kindness, gentleness, a giving heart, meekness and so much more.  Being intentional to have good communication language shows you care about how your spouse feels and that you care about your marriage.  It shows the quality and value of you.

Things you want to avoid are:
  1. Judgemental words – they identify the character of the person making the statement – the best of you is preferred
  2. Global Labels
  3. Blaming and Accusing
  4. Old history
Share with your spouse how you may feel about a particular situation.  Help them to understand you better.  Share your:
  • Thoughts
  • Observations
  • Feelings – The many ways to “feel” comes down to choices being made to stay in a state of mind that has suppressed an individual or the choice to overcome a situation. When making the decision know it is for the betterment of self and no one else.
  •   No one can make the decision for you.  Use this link to identify where you are and where you want to be.
  • Needs