Be the Example
Be the example. People always watch and listen to see what another person is doing or saying. Are they living out what they say or just talking? A known positioning of judgment. It’s always easier to see what another person is or is not doing that may or may not be pleasing to another. However, there becomes a time when there is a need to look in the mirror—allowing the critic being seen to determine if their walk is authentic.
Because marriage is an entity where closeness doesn’t get any closer, a spouse sees all. As well as, a spouse excepts their mate for who they are. The flaws are there, which allows one to continue to grow and always aim to be a better version of themselves.
The beauty of a relationship is having someone there for support. One spouse at any given time may exemplify gentleness, kindness, meekness, and even more self-control.
Forgetting those things behind
Being a model in a relationship means letting go of your wants and needs to be selfless. What people see and hear sticks! And can take a while to erase it in the mind and heart. However, giving up is never an option because the better you don’t happen just for someone else. It will make you ‘happy’ because you’re pleased with yourself.
Affirmations are a great way to start the journey to a better you. Some examples to get started are listed below. Concentrate on one at a time. Speak it out loud daily.
- I am fearfully and wonderfully made. (Psalms 139:14)
- I am a strong person.
- I choose happiness for myself that will produce a strong marriage.
- I am giving and loving by choice.
- The joy of the Lord is my strength (Neh 8:10) to endure all things in my marriage.