Extend Grace. Strong relationships don’t just appear; they form over a period of love, hope and forgiveness. Love is the bedrock of fulfilling marriages, and forgiveness and hope are the pillars. A long-term relationship will come with several hurdles. You will begin to notice flaws you might have ignored, flaws in yourself and your partner. Little imperfections that went unnoticed can create mighty rifts in your relationship. You find yourself blaming your partner for your grievances and projecting your innermost fears at them. In every relationship, this is common.
Understanding that hurdles and rifts in your relationship are there for you and your partner to outgrow and overcome bringing a fresh approach to addressing them. In James 1:2-4, the bible tells us to Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. In this same way, we must realize that obstacles and trials are there to produce fruits of maturity and victory.
Growing In Your Relationship
Growing in your relationship also involves letting go of your past. The past is like a memory clock. It reminds you of a previous version of yourself or your partner. It tries to convince you that nothing has changed and things are still the same way. You must understand that your past or your partners past is in the past and remains an obstacle to a fulfilling marriage. Letting go of the past is a conscious decision. Read Isaiah 43:18 -19. It says, Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! To move forward in your relationship, you must maintain focus. You must push forward and consciously forgive yourself of your past mistakes and failures.
Growth is Constant and a Necessity
For every person, growth is constant and a necessity. If you’re not growing in love, hope and forgiveness in your relationship, it may be because you are withholding a grievance. Learn to forgive and forgive quickly. Forgiving quickly is just as important as forgiving. Ephesians 4:26: In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Face challenges and trials as they come. Seek the continuous help of the Holy Spirit. Speak uplifting and encouraging words to your partner. Words are powerful. Words can build or dismantle. Speak grace over situations and as you apply wisdom involve God. A perfect relationship is a relationship that understands the place of love, hope, encouragement and perseverance.
Finally, be conscious of your faults and shortcomings. Understand them; talk them through with your partner. Apologize for your misgivings and work towards growth and moving forward. Marriage is not an individual affair; it involves two people ready to push through the bad and the good; two people sitting on the platter of love and sacrifice. Extend grace in your relationship, forgive, forget, and grow in love. Let love remain the foundation and let forgiveness and hope stand as the pillars that hold your relationship in both the good and bad times.