Reconciliation is to undo something that has taken place. However, a change is needed and it may start with self. Forgiving yourself for things that has happened in which there was no control. Even forgiving the person(s) that harmed you or mistreated you. Too many times things of the past hold a grip on a person that takes them to a place of bitterness, anger, anxiety and restlessness.
Reconciling with self is what’s needed to bring your marriage back to a place of contentment. Having the courage to press forward and know the outcome will get better. A reconciliation with our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ may be necessary. Through all the ups and downs He will never leave you nor forsake you.
It’s easy to get caught off balance. However, letting go of what has diminished you and those things that keep pushing you into a place of loneliness and unhappiness. These things will block the love that’s in you.
It starts with remembering the Lord has made you, fearfully and wonderfully. That is one of the reasons we praise Him. One must make the choice to be reconciled with the love, kindness, gentleness and meekness that’s already a part of you.
Life’s issues can look like it has molded you into something you have no control over. Nonetheless, what is meant for evil turns out for the good.
As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present outcome.
Genesis 50:20 (AMP)